Serious Warning (as opposed to my goofy ones): There's a pretty intense and somewhat scary picture at the end of this post
Let’s face it – I’m not the crafty type. Neither is my kid. It gets a little depressing seeing everyone’s kids’ pictures on Facebook engaged in all sorts of creative past times. It makes me feel inadequate to know that I can’t grow anything but twigs; I don’t scrapbook my child’s life; I’ve never done anything exciting with toilet paper rolls except use them for impromptu bookmarks.
I'm reposting this because I've recently had a neuropsych eval done on my son. Despite the news being good, overall, it brought up a whole host of emotions that I didn't suspect I still had. The eval has helped to piece together some of the things I'd thought were bizarro and is a good road map to helping my son work on some of the things that are hard for him to manage. But I needed to remind myself that he may not be like 'every kid' but he's my kid and what he does, it's pretty amazing considering the road he traveled to get here ~
Sorry to hear you’re going through another rough time. Remember that some of the most amazing people were “not every kid.”
Thanks – things have been emotionally wacky for a few months…I have to get myself back on track to move forward.
I don’t often tear up, but your post made me do so. I don’t know what more to say than that. Filled me with a mother’s hope.
I do have lots of hopes – but I have to let Dorian be his own person and that’s hard – it was easier when he was a babe and I guarded him – now I have to let him go in to the world and hope his spirit continues to grow ~
Thank you for reading
I guess I meant hope in the sense that if there are any mothers out there in a similar situation–such as a baby in the NICU–they can see that gorgeous picture of your child as he is now and feel hope. But I’m sure it is hard to release him into the world.
Oh yes, that I totally understand. I hope parents out there struggling do have hope and love to help them though ~
Kids are amazing and so are moms like you. Such a sweet post, and as long as you love and cook, everything else falls into place.
They are – and thank you….I do love and cook – I hope it all falls into place! Thank you for reading
You are an amazing person, my friend.
*blushes* – I think we all do what we need to do when we are ‘up against it” – if you know what I mean.
Your son may grow up to amaze the world…God’s plan has not unfolded yet and he might surprise the world indeed. Crafty is not the only talent in life and he may surpass others in some hidden talents yet to be seen… Supply him with music and instruments and see if he shines there. One day something will spark and he will shine. Keep the faith and the love will conquer all.
Thank you – I feel he will be something amazing – he has over come so many obstacles- and he loves music. He has much to enrich his life and I hope he finds a path that makes him happy and uses his talents.
Your comment was lovely. I sincerely appreciate it.
I worked with special people for many years who lived with their families and I took them on outings to give the families a break. Most were autistic or down syndrome. They were amazing. We did things that the parents would never dream of doing. Concerts, Football games, golf, going to restaurants, etc. It gave the parents faith in their children (who were much older) that there was still hope.
Sometimes when we have children with special needs, we forget that they can accomplish so much if we just let them ‘roam’ a little – but we want to protect them. I’m grateful that my son is thriving and has come thru that fire mostly intact – it was an amazing experience for us all and he’s really such a great person – I am eager to see what his spark is (probably NASCAR racing if he’s got his way).
I love hearing about people that work with special people and love their jobs. I did voc evals for several years and saw many unloved people – but also many loved ones too.
It is an entirely different world. To gain the trust of someone who is autistic enough to be allowed into their world is amazing. It still gives me goose bumps just to think about it. Music was a big tool that we used to open their world and have them share.
Music is the most powerful tool I know – next to laughter.
My son has several friends ‘on the spectrum’ as it were – and one friend in particular, when we made a connection – it was beautiful. She is a lovely young woman I’m lucky to be part of her world.
Thank you – and right back attcha! Thanks for the conversation – glad we have met.
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