This is a fast off-the-cuff post ….
This weekend someone asked me if I was a ‘full-time mom’ – which I think is kind of interesting. I’m pretty sure that as soon as you have that child in your arms, you are 100% a full time Mom (parent). No one told me I could go into this at less than 100%. Did I miss something in the fine print?
I know she meant was I a ‘stay-at-home-mom’ – but the wording struck me as odd. I responded that I was, indeed, a full time mom and I worked a full time job too. And then joked that I wish I could come in at part-time sometimes because hearing “Mom, mom, mom, mommmmmmmmmmmy, mom, mom, mom” non-stop makes me a little wacky at times.
I also find it interesting when people, who knew I had a baby, would ask me if Dad is babysitting our kid (obviously if the little meatloaf wasn’t with me). Um…he’s the FATHER – they don’t babysit their own children. They are also full time fathers. But it’s kind of how our society views things. Moms are typically are ‘in charge’ by default – no one ever asked me if I was babysitting my own kid…
Neither of these things make me ‘mad’ or ‘resentful’ – but I think they are interesting in and of themselves because they reveal so much about how we view parenting. As if it’s a job. No one has asked me if I’m a full-time spouse. Never.
Another interesting thing – I find it weird that people ask me if I’m a parent, but not so much what I do for a living. I get kind of twitchy about that; because I don’t think my entire existence revolves around being a parent. I love being a Mom – but I’m not just that dimension. Just like my job is not the only dimension about me either. But, that too, also reveals how our society views roles of women and parenting too.
Anyway – that’s what is in my brain right now.