I Feel For My Mother – Daily Prompt Repost

Seems I’ve covered the Daily Prompt’s query before – and since I reblogged it – I now have to repost it…

How important are clothes to you? Describe your style, if you have one, and tell us how appearance impacts how you feel about yourself.

I feel for my mother. She desperately wanted a girl. She got me instead.  Not to say I’m not feminine; I wear skirts, I wore makeup, I procreated. But I suspect I wasn’t the kind of girl she really wanted.

She wanted this girl:

Not Me

She got this one instead:

Me – nose ring and all

During high school, I remember her asking me why I didn’t want to be a cheerleader; why didn’t I want to wear Guess jeans instead of black skirts from Goodwill? Why didn’t I wear ‘nice make-up’? Why didn’t I wear lipstick? Why didn’t I paint my nails? How did I expect to get a husband with tattoos and a nose ring? Why? Why? Why?

I don’t know. But I did manage to snag a husband who hates cheerleading, makeup, designer clothing, painted nails and girly shoes.

However, I think I’m missing some basic “girl” genetics. I hate most clothes and most clothing accessories.  My wardrobe is… well, let’s say I’m always ready for a funeral.  I’ve started wearing more ‘color’ as I’ve gotten older – I like dark green a lot.  As a consequence of my clothing choices, I can no longer really ‘match colors’ – everything goes with black, right? Damn straight it does.  Black goes best with black.

I envision my grandson one day thrift shopping with his friend, pulling out a Cramps tee and remarking with slight horror: Ewww – this is something my grandmother would wear! 

The Granma Tee-Shirt in 2040

(Yes, I own that tee shirt in real life and yes, it’s yellow, but it’s a Cramps tee-shirt so it’s acceptable)

Ok my kid is only 9 and not even close to fathering a child – but I have worried that I’m going to wake up one day and desire a pantsuit.  I desperately hope not. I plan on keeping a robust amount of tee shirts in my wardrobe well into my 80s. And they’re probably gonna be an xxxxxxx-large because one of my only goals in life is to start eating at least 1 cannoli per day when I reach my 70s.  But that’s another story.

I don’t wear jewelry except for whatever can stay on my body. And it has to be silver.  I have sported the same earrings since I was 18. I had about 7 in my left ear at one time (it was really excellent to have a friend that owned a piercing gun). I have 2 remaining.  I own two nose rings. One small hoop and one baby stud for job interviews.   I own six rings – I wear five of them.  Oh and a silver anklet.  I had two but now I have one.  My family has stopped buying me jewelry long ago. GET ME BOOKS!  I like books- a lot.

I hate shoes.  I love big black Olive Oil clunky boots.  Olive liked brown; but I’m more of a black boot gal.

Sexiest Legs EVER

I hardly wear shoes if I can help it. It would drive my Grandmother crazy when she was alive. She was a shoe FIEND. She had hundreds of pairs of shoes, each with a matching purse – and not one pair fit right.  Not one. She had this crazy philosophy that a ‘lady’ doesn’t wear a shoe size bigger than a 7 ½.  As an 8 ½, there was not much I could do to defend myself. Logical arguments weren’t an option with Nanny at times.  She wore a size 6 and didn’t understand. She also thought I should wear a girdle and iron my father’s boxer shorts; I love Nanny, but we didn’t see eye-to-eye on some basic issues.

I’m also not fond of belts or purses.  I love medieval dresses and cloaks.  I’m not completely strange.  The only accessory item I LOVE is tights- not thick white ones however.  And most assuredly, NOT pantyhose – those are obscene. I think it’s insane to wear pantyhose to ‘pretend’ that one’s legs are perfect.  I’d much rather have a lovely pair of black/white stripped tights.  Tights look awesome with big black boots.

I’m also against dying my hair a ‘reasonable’ color. I’m not kidding anyone today that knew me yesterday with gray hairs.  I love to color my hair any variety of colors ranging from David Bowie Red to Roy Orbison Black.

“The Natural Looks”

When my brother-in-law was at barbering school, I asked him to dye my hair David Bowie Red, however, something went awry and I ended up with Neon Cantaloupe. I realized something was going horribly wrong when my head felt like it was on fire. But the color was pretty interesting. My son was 3 at the time and I think I scared him when he first saw me.

So I’m dying it because I like to – not because I want it to look natural.  I am feverently hoping that my hair gets really white so I can dye it purple and have the dye stay in longer than 3 minutes.

You can probably guess my feelings for going to the maul, er I mean mall. No – I really mean maul.  My mom LOVES going to the maul. She loves to buy stuff and then return it. I can’t figure this one out.  Going to the maul is horrible enough, but to buy things that you suspect you are going to return is like poking yourself in the eye with hot, sharp needles. Then doing it again.

I’m 42 43 and I still torque my mom with my ‘fashion’ choices.  It wasn’t until I reached my late 20s/early 30s that she finally gave up trying to buy me something ‘cute’ for Christmas. Now she knows – get me a black skirt, black sweater or black Doc Martin boots.  And of course get nothing with buttons.

Below is a list of things that I avoid wearing on my person:

  • Buttons (gag)
  • Extraneous zippers
  • Collars
  • V-necks
  • Pockets on my shirt
  • Shirts with sleeves that have some sort of ribbed material on the edges

I know, I know – you’re thinking that I must save a lot of money on all the clothing I’m not buying. But no worries, I have a book & music collection to rival any shoe collection out there.

And here’s some stuff to read

  1. Steve Hanuman | Village & Countryside Tourism
  2. Louis Viviers | Village & Countryside Tourism
  3. Rural Tourism in Russia: Man and Horse | Village & Countryside Tourism
  4. Daily Prompt: The Clothes (May) Make the (Wo)man | Awl and Scribe
  5. Man maketh the clothes. « RPMAS
  6. Daily Prompt: It’s About Clothes and Not About Russia | Under the Monkey Tree
  7. The Clothes (May) Make the Man | geekergosum
  8. Never Stationary
  9. Suit Up! | Crossroads
  10. Zero, Budget Version. | thoughtsofrkh
  11. Too Sexy For My Clothes [Daily Prompt: The Clothes (May) Make the (Wo)man] | unknowinglee
  12. Canada Goose (Style) | photo potpourri
  13. Daily Prompt: Clothes: I Blame Stacy & Clinton | Kim, Who Lives at Home
  14. The Clothes (May) make the Woman (Writer) | Kate Murray
  15. Way down inside | The verbal hedge
  16. Daily Prompt: The Clothes (May) Make the (Wo)man « Mama Bear Musings

About Rutabaga the Mercenary Researcher

I'm a research librarian for Public Television, story teller, bike commuter, baker, music fiend, lover of reading & books, mother, wife, friend - and many more descriptive adjectives and nouns.
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42 Responses to I Feel For My Mother – Daily Prompt Repost

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  2. tamtam012013 says:

    I feel for mine, she wanted that girl in the picture too lol

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  5. sinecostan says:

    You seriously rock! I am all about the book and music collection and who cares about the clothes? I like white and black, the plainer the better. For years, I had only one pair of shoes… now I have two, cuz you need a spare in case you have to go to a job interview or a wedding or something.

  6. shoutabyss says:

    The reality photo destroys the fantasy photo – hard. There’s absolutely no comparison!

    I don’t understand the urge to buy stuff and then return it. I’ve never returned anything. True story! 🙂 I agonize over a purchase for weeks then, once the decision has been made, I literally go past the point of no return. Har.

    There’s little in life worse than the customer service counter. I will not go willingly into that pit of despair.

    • Hee hee – yes, I dread having to return ANYTHING….and I certainly will not be shopping on Black Friday or Dec 26th… that’s just crazy with crazy on top.

      Yes, alas, I am nothing like the fantasy photo….much to my dismay 🙂

      That’s amazing that you’ve returned nothing – there’s an epitaph for your memory!

  7. 🙂 I’m happiest in bare feet, jeans and a t-shirt. At least my parents adjusted in my early childhood years to the fact that I was a tomboy and proud of it. I have one ring that I wear all the time and only ever wear mascara. I do like to dress up every now and then, but if you put me in high heels, you may as well call the ambulance before I take those first steps!!

  8. Kylie says:

    I loved this! Especially the part about your interview nose ring 🙂

    Once in college I decided to wear a different item of black clothing every day for a month. And I pulled it off. It was entertaining, if only to me.

    I wish I’d been daring enough to wear the vintage dresses I bought back in high school. I would’ve been ahead of my time. Luckily when I first started a “real job” after grad school I bought several nice vintage suits and had a lot of fun wearing those. Now my wardrobe can only be described as Target, or Loft on a fancy day. Mostly because I’m lazy.

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  11. Lisa says:

    I know you have no problem with black velvet lined with green satin!! Besides, when all is said and done, if you are comfortable in your clothes, you look better. You carry yourself better and you have confidence, because you like what you’re wearing. Anything else and you’d look miserable. I’m sure you’d actually look ‘nice’, but you’d be so unhappy, it wouldn’t look good.

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  14. I didn’t know you had buttonophobia. Interesting. I too was never a girly girl. My mother never pressured me to be a girly girl, but she also would have preferred that I be more “feminine.” She used to buy me all kinds of clothes and jewelry that she thought I’d like, but really, it was stuff she liked and wanted me to wear. I love jewelry but not the dainty stuff. I’ve been coloring my hair since I was 18, most of my wardrobe is black or dark purple, and the last time I wore a dress was at my wedding more than 7 years ago. And like you, I’d rather spend $$ on books and music than on clothes ANY DAY.

    • I don’t mind wearing dresses – if it’s a style I like – but I’m so weird about stuff.

      Yes – my brain is a bit wacky about buttons – I wrote about it early in my blogging days – “Time to label the crazy” – it’s actually a mis-wiring in my brain 🙂 WHOO HOO!

      I’m sure I’ll buy my kid things I want him to wear …

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  16. Carrie Rubin says:

    Glad to know I wasn’t the only teenage girl who had no desire to be a cheerleader. I think there was only one other girl besides me who didn’t try out for it in junior high. Nobody could understand why I didn’t want to. They’d give me weird looks when I said I wasn’t interested. But I simply wasn’t. Designer clothes don’t do it for me either. Or shoes. Unfortunately, however, my husband did buy me a nice handbag for a gift one time. And now I kind of like them…

  17. dentaleggs says:

    I love my jammies… all day long.

  18. El Guapo says:

    Tee shirts never go out of style.
    though I prefer a plain white t and a comfortable pair of jeans.

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  21. April says:

    I think you’re my long-lost sister! Although, I have to admit that my style has gotten “older” lately. My volunteer work makes me feel like casual to business-casual is more appropriate most of the time. On “my-time” it’s always dark skinny jeans, tank or tee, and preferably bare-foot, flip-flops if I must (gave the Docs to my thirteen-and-ten-year-old daughters for school this year). 🙂

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